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Essay; Sexual Shaming of Men


man-in-doubt

I’ve been thinking about this issue for about a year now but it coalesced last night when I read a quite long, but well-thought-out blog post on this site that made light of how many women absorb shame from men when we have sex with them.

Before that, we’re fine, happy with ourselves, like being a woman, and like our bodies. I think women are getting better at accepting our bodies as they are and the media is helping with that. I know I am.

There are more women of all different sizes on T.V. and in all media. The SIZE SHAMING, no matter what size, has decreased. More women understand that it’s more important for us to love ourselves than to please a man.

But, reading her blog, I immediately related to the experience of being mystified as to why a man I was with would turn pornographic in his tone, talked about how hot I was, did the sweetie, beautiful “speak” and then wanted to get sexually nasty as opposed to sensuous and intimate. My assumption is it’s the testosterone and most women consider it normal.

The last lover I had said, “Why do you have to be so seductive?” “Me? Seductive?” I’m a chipmunk! What was he talking about? I don’t think he was seeing who I was; he was seeing who he wanted and needed to see. He was projecting.

Women are individuals not porn stars and it’s objectifying to treat us like we’re part of your MENTAL fantasy, not a person in front of you. But again, I’m not sure men can help it because of the shame they’re socialized with.

Their minds are all cluttered up with objectifying materialism which makes them feel better. Their feelings are stimulated by things; women’s bodies, food, cars, houses, boats, and on and on. I’m not sure women understand this.

How much does that happen? Probably all the time. It’s men’s fantasy need of having a car or motorcycle that reminds them of a childhood toy that they loved. Then they imagined they were a superhero on that vehicle and some adult males still do it. They get a life-sized one and keep the fantasy going.

It’s objectification that transfers over to sex with a woman. I suppose this underlies the barely clad woman advertising a car that is so nauseating to us.

It’s something to keep in mind that men probably watch a tremendous amount of porn because they can’t express their sexual feelings as much as they need to or the way they want to in our civilization that shames it.

Most men are not relational, not romantic and don’t want to be yet many women need that to be turned on! If he acquiesced, he would be too much like a woman and he’s not a woman, he’s a man, which means he’s a part wild animal, part human. Not all men are of course but most of them are. It’s scary for some women like me when they turn wild animal. I guess other women like it.

I think that men project a lot onto women, as though it’s our issue, about how turned on they are by feeling ashamed, nasty, or mean. OR…is shame projected on to them from all sides FOR BEING male as though they are expected to be like that even if they are not?

The writer I read didn’t say that in her blog or maybe she doesn’t understand it. I think men get turned on by feeling repulsed. They’re attracted to women and things that are not nice and that are uncivilized and wild.

It’s all that testosterone blasting through their brains that blows everything up. It’s the opposite of most women. I know some women are attracted to pain and ugliness, like a sadistic thing but it’s not terribly common. Still, I’m not judging it. Nevertheless, I am not that way.

It appears to me that everything in our civilization exists as it is to control men’s sexual nature and make things peaceable for women and children. Before, most of the time it was working. NOW, society seems to be tearing itself apart because men’s sexual nature is finally coming to the surface.

There is more awareness of abuse of women and children, guns are everywhere which men love (you don’t see women using them in public much), we see incest, pedophilia, and sex trafficking at the highest levels of institutions, all the lies, and control about it are coming forward, the institutions don’t know exactly how to lie about it anymore.

Men are victims of the system too otherwise they wouldn’t be victimizing those more vulnerable than them. It’s a trickle-down from the women and men in power who hold the system in place.

Civilization uses guilt, shame, control, incarceration, blaming women, sports, and the media all to LIE about men’s sexual nature. I guess we’re still working on a balance to our civilization as though it’s progressed from being in the wild.

Sometimes I think it’s worse because it represses the true feelings and then they explode to the surface.

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Essay; Sexual Shaming of Men


man-in-doubt

I’ve been thinking about this issue for about a year now but it coalesced last night when I read a quite long, but well-thought-out blog post on this site that made light of how many women absorb shame from men when we have sex with them.

Before that, we’re fine, happy with ourselves, like being a woman, and like our bodies. I think women are getting better at accepting our bodies as they are and the media is helping with that. I know I am.

There are more women of all different sizes on T.V. and in all media. The SIZE SHAMING, no matter what size, has decreased. More women understand that it’s more important for us to love ourselves than to please a man.

But, reading her blog, I immediately related to the experience of being mystified as to why a man I was with would turn pornographic in his tone, talked about how hot I was, did the sweetie, beautiful “speak” and then wanted to get sexually nasty as opposed to sensuous and intimate. My assumption is it’s the testosterone and most women consider it normal.

The last lover I had said, “Why do you have to be so seductive?” “Me? Seductive?” I’m a chipmunk! What was he talking about? I don’t think he was seeing who I was; he was seeing who he wanted and needed to see. He was projecting.

Women are individuals not porn stars and it’s objectifying to treat us like we’re part of your MENTAL fantasy, not a person in front of you. But again, I’m not sure men can help it because of the shame they’re socialized with.

Their minds are all cluttered up with objectifying materialism which makes them feel better. Their feelings are stimulated by things; women’s bodies, food, cars, houses, boats, and on and on. I’m not sure women understand this.

How much does that happen? Probably all the time. It’s men’s fantasy need of having a car or motorcycle that reminds them of a childhood toy that they loved. Then they imagined they were a superhero on that vehicle and some adult males still do it. They get a life-sized one and keep the fantasy going.

It’s objectification that transfers over to sex with a woman. I suppose this underlies the barely clad woman advertising a car that is so nauseating to us.

It’s something to keep in mind that men probably watch a tremendous amount of porn because they can’t express their sexual feelings as much as they need to or the way they want to in our civilization that shames it.

Most men are not relational, not romantic and don’t want to be yet many women need that to be turned on! If he acquiesced, he would be too much like a woman and he’s not a woman, he’s a man, which means he’s a part wild animal, part human. Not all men are of course but most of them are. It’s scary for some women like me when they turn wild animal. I guess other women like it.

I think that men project a lot onto women, as though it’s our issue, about how turned on they are by feeling ashamed, nasty, or mean. OR…is shame projected on to them from all sides FOR BEING male as though they are expected to be like that even if they are not?

The writer I read didn’t say that in her blog or maybe she doesn’t understand it. I think men get turned on by feeling repulsed. They’re attracted to women and things that are not nice and that are uncivilized and wild.

It’s all that testosterone blasting through their brains that blows everything up. It’s the opposite of most women. I know some women are attracted to pain and ugliness, like a sadistic thing but it’s not terribly common. Still, I’m not judging it. Nevertheless, I am not that way.

It appears to me that everything in our civilization exists as it is to control men’s sexual nature and make things peaceable for women and children. Before, most of the time it was working. NOW, society seems to be tearing itself apart because men’s sexual nature is finally coming to the surface.

There is more awareness of abuse of women and children, guns are everywhere which men love (you don’t see women using them in public much), we see incest, pedophilia, and sex trafficking at the highest levels of institutions, all the lies, and control about it are coming forward, the institutions don’t know exactly how to lie about it anymore.

Men are victims of the system too otherwise they wouldn’t be victimizing those more vulnerable than them. It’s a trickle-down from the women and men in power who hold the system in place.

Civilization uses guilt, shame, control, incarceration, blaming women, sports, and the media all to LIE about men’s sexual nature. I guess we’re still working on a balance to our civilization as though it’s progressed from being in the wild.

Sometimes I think it’s worse because it represses the true feelings and then they explode to the surface.

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Exploring Gender Identity: Insights from Maya Spirituality


The White Wizard Tribe, the Goddess Ixchel

I’ve worked with the Maya Oracle for thirty-four years. The Tiamat karma from Red Serpent~White Wizard Tribes tends to dominate the time movements. We had to come to Earth as refugees from that awful mistake. Red Serpent, also known as Reptilians, are widely known to have created our current patriarchy. Ixchel was the Mayan Jaguar goddess who provided analog support. She’s the only goddess I’ve seen in the tribes. The other 19 are gods, as far as I know.

This is a deeply ancient stuff and unconscious in most human minds. The automatic servile attitude and easy manipulation of many women toward lonely men comes from these ancient habits. Females are actually the dominant species on the planet, and it’s plain to see. Yet both men and women are complicit. They use the second-class citizen status against humanity as a collective. They bitterly complain about each other. Both suffer. All suffer when power is not shared with women as women and men as men. This happens instead of us wishing to biologically pretend to change our sex/gender.

All men and women are both male and female already in our genetics, minds, and in our souls. It’s not difficult to already look like the opposite sex because we are already both. So what! In most cultures, an individual reaches a shamanic state when they consciously acknowledge the female aspects within their body. They also recognize the male aspects. Are we really rejecting of shaman, healers, and lightworkers that we have to dismember their sex? Probably.

This is error-celebrating Earth, after all. People love to be wrong and feel they must convince others they are right… like a dictator. I’m just sharing my researched hypothesis and informed opinion. I don’t need anyone to agree with me.

What’s the real issue with the Red Serpent/Red Dragon abuse and the blood sacrifice of the Maya? We know that male dominance patriarchy was seeded on Tiamat because they filled themselves with nanites. Now it’s possibly ending the existence of those two kin. That is major for the Tzolkin lineup, but maybe it’s meant to be.

The transgender movement is phenomenally superficial to me when it comes to sex truth. Do they think that by cutting off an organ and pushing hormones, it will DELETE the opposite sex in them? The white coats are taking advantage of it. It’s an irrelevant issue whose superficial approach is wracking up money for sick care.

All of nature thrives on the fact that IT IS BINARY, + and – charge, female and male. Can life really become non-binary or non-dualistic? You can’t get rid of a positive or negative charge in atoms. You can’t get rid of them in people either because we are made of atoms. Nor can you get rid of time and the left and right sides of the body.

You have to incorporate, balance it, and expand it!! Women need to feel their male piece with their female piece and expand it. Males need to feel their female piece with their male piece and expand it. Why do you hate it? People need to examine that in light of their parents and trauma in childhood.

Dismembering the body is a regrettable mistake if you do it. It shows an unbalanced mind wishing to kill the male or the female. Or kill your father or kill your mother. Now, we are dealing with an Oedipus complex and Electra complex. Feel free to Google it. Books are written on the subject.

Trump is making grand, broad stroke statements about making it a law that only two sexes exist. That’s not necessary. Nature manifests mostly female and male evolution. But he can’t legislate gender expression without offending the First Amendment right to free speech. I do not support that.

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Gender Balance in the Maya Oracle


I’ve worked with the Maya Oracle for thirty-four years. The Tiamat karma from Red Serpent~White Wizard Tribes tends to dominate the time movements because we had to come to Earth as refugees from that awful mistake. Red Serpent or Reptilians are widely known to be the authors of our current patriarchy, and Ixchel was the Mayan Jaguar goddess who is the analog support. She’s the only goddess I’ve seen in the tribes. The other 19 are gods, as far as I know.

This is a deeply ancient stuff and unconscious in most human minds. The automatic servile attitude and easy manipulation of many women toward lonely men comes from these ancient habits. Females are actually the dominant species on the planet, and it’s plain to see. Yet both men and women are complicit and use the second-class citizen status against humanity as a collective to bitterly complain about each other. Both suffer, all suffer when power is not shared with women AS women and men AS men instead of us wishing to biologically pretend to change our sex/gender.

All men and women are both male and female already in our genetics, minds, and in our souls. It’s not difficult to already look like the opposite sex bc we are already both. So what!In most cultures, when an individual has conscious awareness of both female and male IN THEIR BODY already, they are shamanic. Are we really rejecting of shaman, healers, and lightworkers that we have to dismember their sex? Probably.

This is error-celebrating Earth, after all. People love to be wrong and feel they must convince others they are right… like a dictator. I’m just sharing my researched hypothesis and informed opinion. I don’t need anyone to agree with me.

What’s the real issue with the Red Serpent/Red Dragon abuse and the blood sacrifice of the Maya? We know that male dominance patriarchy was seeded on Tiamat because they filled themselves with nanites. Now it’s possibly ending the existence of those two kin. That is major for the Tzlkin lineup, but maybe it’s meant to be.

The transgender movement is phenomenally superficial to me when it comes to sex truth. Do they think that by cutting off an organ and pushing hormones, it will DELETE the opposite sex in them? The white coats are taking advantage of it. It’s an irrelevant issue whose superficial approach is wracking up money for sick care.

All of nature thrives on the fact that IT IS BINARY, + and – charge, female and male. Can life really become non-binary or non-dualistic? You can’t get rid of a positive or negative charge in atoms, so nor can you in people because we are made of atoms. Nor can you get rid of time and the left and right sides of the body.

You have to incorporate, balance it, and expand it!! Women need to feel their male piece with their female piece and expand it. Males need to feel their female piece with their male piece and expand it. Why do you hate it? People need to examine that in light of their parents and trauma in childhood.

Dismembering the body is a regrettable mistake if you do it and evinces an unbalanced mind wishing to kill the male or kill the female. Or kill your father or kill your mother. Now, we are dealing with an Oedipus complex and Electra complex. Feel free to Google it. Books are written on the subject.

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Find humor in the crazy situation and set yourself free — joypassiondesire


“My focus is to forget the pain of life. Forget the pain, mock the pain, reduce it. And laugh.” – Jim Carrey

This is such a wonderful quote because it takes the edge off the pain. Instead of wallowing in your suffering and feeling sorry for yourself, find humor in this crazy situation and allow […]

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I can really relate to this post. In my Deep t.Issue Therapy and Reiki office I try to keep the mood light, smile and laugh. However, my patients are coming in with serious pain, health, and sometimes emotional issues. Once I get into their deep tissue, either talking, stories, or in the case of Reiki, tears start to flow. I am detached as a practitioner but it’s a part of my job I’m learning to accept even though I prefer to have fun.

You see, as much as I agree with Jim Carey and do it myself, my patients have been through the wringer and I have to walk a tightrope. Every day I have to use my intuition with a patient and modify my approach.