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Why Do People Hate Smart Women? The full article!


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I’ve had hundreds of hits on the post where the link to this article resides, but I don’t think people read it. So here it is.-L.T.

By Michael Karson Ph.D., J.D.
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Why Do People Hate Smart Women?
Smart women make frustrated housewives.
Posted November 6, 2017
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It took me a long time to recognize people’s distaste for smart women in many situations, largely because intelligence to me is the most appealing quality in a woman (or a man), friends or a partner, not to mention students, politicians, and colleagues. I don’t mean intellectualism—citing Greeks, quoting Shakespeare, or knowing the capital of Tuvalu. These things appeal to me, too, if performed with delight rather than superiority. But I mean saying useful things about what is going on or about topics under discussion. Over the years, though, I’ve seen how people ignore or ostracize women who say smart things. In my world, this usually happens subtly, while it happens bluntly and even violently in other places.

In my behavioristic reading of gender theory, gender comprises the repertoire that society differentially reinforces because of sex. (They have genders in boxes of behavior) It’s the stuff that boys and girls, men and women, are encouraged to do or discouraged from doing because of their biological sex.

This set of different behavioral rules for the two sexes has a number of consequences. One is that it can feel very important in most situations to know the sex of a person so as to apply the correct set of rules. Another is that, because political, social, and economic pressures have exaggerated the importance of sex roles, gender has become central to most people’s sense of self-worth. People get more insulted—and more prone to violence—if someone attacks their sex-role adequacy than their overall adequacy. The question of disliking smart women then becomes a question of whether saying intelligent things is womanly under current cultural norms.

All these reasons that follow can be considered in terms of cognitive dissonance, the unpleasant experience of holding incompatible ideas. One idea is that a woman just said something smart. What follows are reasons for believing that women shouldn’t say smart things. 😵The conflict is typically resolved by marginalizing the woman or denying that she said something smart.

1. Smart women make bad slaves.

I like the theory that men and women were equals when we were foragers—that is, for most of our 70,000 years with contemporary brains. With the advent of agriculture, the food surplus (and the ability to store it) changed many things about us. Sex roles became more differentiated (and men may have gotten bigger than women), monogamy became less important, and slavery became economically feasible. Pair-bonding within tribes was replaced with citizenship (derived from the word for cities), with the food surplus feeding a military force for protection. Masculinity was perfected to encourage young men to fight (even foragers would fight other tribes and would need masculinity to encourage it). Domination extended to women, not just to slaves. Smart women, from Hypatia to Malala, upset the structure of patriarchy. This picture is a bit too graphic for most of America, but it seems applicable to cultures that don’t send girls to school.

2. Smart women make frustrated housewives.

Nietzsche and Freud wrote about a primary problem of civilization, the difficulty of living in communities for a species as aggressive as ours. Hierarchies served the purpose of organizing aggression into pecking orders, and the story of humanity became one of mastering one’s anger, hunger, and sexuality. Sin was invented to encourage this mastery. Women became a source of sin, like an aromatic donut, and men the locus of mastery. But another solution to the problem of community life was for men to agree to obey the regime outside the home in exchange for a kingly posture inside it. The wife’s job was to do the unrewarding chores, those that are negatively reinforced, i.e., those that are noticed only when they are not done.

3. Smart women are too big for their britches.

The structural hierarchies in cities, the courtship rituals in our species, and our ability to look powerful even when we lack it have all made us status-conscious animals. We enhance our status in many ways, but one pervasive way is to act as children cannot, since childhood is in all societies a sign of reduced power. Women have a handicap in status play because their size makes them typically look more like children than men do (when standing next to men). Children are also, besides being smaller than adults, less able to control their bodies. I’m not saying that women are less able to control their bodies than men are; I’m saying that society focuses on women’s reproductive cycles in order to make them seem more like children, and this too handicaps them in status performances.

Men’s visual lust also highlights women’s bodies. Further, society generally trains girls to play lower status than boys. Smart women disrupt status transactions, and other people put them back in their place, like children who interrupt grownups. This is obvious on talk shows that have panels, where men talk and women get hands placed on their shoulders or forearms to remind them to wait until the adults have finished speaking.

4. Smart women make it less terrifying to throw like a girl.

Masculinity is often taught and maintained as a status that is superior to femininity. The football coach or drill sergeant motivates players or recruits by labeling them as “ladies,” a stigma they can relieve themselves of by demonstrating stoicism and aggression. St. Augustine preferred to keep the Jews alive but miserable not because genocide was wrong, but so their misery could stand as an object lesson to people thinking of leaving the faith. Many an unhappy white person has found comfort in not being black, in being better than someone. When women say smart things, it disrupts this system.

5. Smart women make bad mommies.

I mean mommies, not mothers—smart women make perfectly good mothers. Every child needs a mommy, a parenting figure who admires and attunes to the child, who polishes the child’s performance of self by acting as a mirror to her. Children also need a daddy, a parenting figure who is admired by and attuned to by the child, who shines on the child. Mommies provide care and daddies provide protection. In recent history, the role of mommy has been filled by women and the role of daddy by men, but that is an arbitrary system often framed around pregnancy and nursing, as if these months define a woman’s role in life. When people say smart things, they are shining and not then polishing the performance of others. A smart woman suggests that your own mommy was somewhat stifled in her role and may have had better things to do than wait on you. Some readers will claim that their smart mothers weren’t frustrated as housewives. Hey kids, you’re fulfilling in the long haul—but you’re not that interesting. How much of the vast parenting literature makes complicated what is actually quite simple in order to sop up the intellectual curiosity of mommies?

6. Smart women often refute men’s theory of mind.

“Theory of mind” refers to our ability to infer that other people have what we have—thoughts, feelings, agendas, and perspectives. Calling this a theory of mind unnecessarily complicates it—still, it’s a useful metaphor for how we treat others, for whether we see them as human. First, our verbal community teaches us to consider ourselves a mental creature, and then it teaches us to include others as well in that category. Not everyone is included, most especially people from different tribes and people who are to be treated as less than fully human—enemies, servants, foreigners, and (for men) women. Violence typically depends on depersonalization, meaning that the violent actor’s theory of mind does not extend to the victim. Because the main evidence we have of our own mental life involves the words we hear in our heads, it is harder for people who speak another language, or even in an accent, to convince you that they have real thoughts. Parents recognize when their toddlers suddenly express intentions and opinions. Much incidental or unconscious racism and sexism can be clarified by asking whether one person can imagine that the other is having intelligent thoughts. An important date-rape-drug question is, “Why would anyone want to have sex with an unconscious woman?” One answer might be that such men think all young women are always without consciousness—like aromatic donuts. The system of inclusion or exclusion among the fully human is upset when someone who is not authorized to have a mind reveals one.

7. Smart women betray the sorority. Some groups of women (especially in some classrooms) join together around not standing out, around not making the other women feel bad. Smart women can make other women feel envious or inadequate.


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Essay: Heartset; Love and Lust are a Two-Way Street (Freebie)


Both women and men love and lust. Women don’t just attract men with their loving relationship skills and men don’t just attract women with their constantly lusty energy. There are plenty of women who no longer believe in love and have just given in to the lust paradigm of hook-ups, use, and throw which is what most men engender. So the women just go along with it having experienced too many men who don’t seem to want to love or don’t know how to. The women are busier making money than teaching the men about feelings or loving them in friendship.

There are also plenty of loving, sensitive men who do want intimacy, bonding, and a monogamous relationship. The key is obviously to find the person who wants the same thing as you. And it’s hard for men to trust women when many women are very bitchy or downright abusive and mean. They don’t take care of themselves and are in no mood to be loving to a man.

It does seem to generally be true that men are very, very comfortable lusting after women and just going forward with that and wishing for the woman to cooperate. It’s also generally true that women are more relational and loving and draw men in with that warmth going forward and wish a man would cooperate with that. The problem is, most women will not just cooperate with pure lust in a relationship with no bonding and most men will not just cooperate with pure loving relational energy in a relationship with bonding. There has to be compromise.

The truth is men sorely, sorely need someone who they can express their deepest feelings with and feel safe; someone who will be their friend with whom they can talk. They need a relationship far more than a woman. That can happen with a kind woman. The truth is women sorely, sorely need hot, great sex that fulfills their physical needs with a man who cares how she physically and emotionally responds to sex. Sex is spiritual to most women! We need a man who will stimulate our lustiness! I have yet to meet a man who really wants to get to know my body and soul sexually. I’ve almost given up. I wonder if men feel the same way about expressing their feelings to a woman without her making fun of him?

I don’t know. What I do know is that a woman’s lusty self needs to be stimulated by a man and a man’s relational self needs to be stimulated by a woman. Then both of them will be more satisfied and turned on.

 

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The Long Road to Women’s Voting Rights


It’s been a long 105 years. Even longer for women in Mississippi who didn’t pass the 19th Amendment until 1984. Shocking. All men from all cultures and creed who were American citizens had the right to vote first. American women received this right later. We are truly second class citizens as the “more sensible sex”.

On 18th August 1920, the 19th Amendment to the US Constitution granted American women the right to vote. This occurred after nearly 100 years of protest.

In the mind of the alpha men (in their own minds anyway), we’re supposed to be quiet. We should not think a lot or express our opinion. We should not say what we need, like sex slaves or indentured servants to their running of the planet.

(To find out more about women’s suffrage in other countries, take a look at our women’s suffrage timeline.)

Until 1848, the movement for women’s suffrage wasn’t organized at national level. In July of 1848, Elizabeth Stanton and Lucretia Mott organized the first women’s rights convention in New York. More than 300 women and men attended. The movement lost momentum because of the Civil War outbreak. Women had to assist the efforts related to the conflict.

After many years of protesting, the outcome looked bleak after many states voted to not amend the 19th Amendment. Southern states were mainly opposed to the amendment. Seven had already voted to reject it before Tennessee’s vote on 18th August 1920. Tennessee held the vote to tip the scale for women’s suffrage. The state’s decision came down to Harry T.Burn, a 23 year old Republican from McMinn County. Burn initially opposed the amendment. However, his mother convinced him to vote for the cause by writing a letter to him. She included “Don’t forget to be a good boy.”

On 26th August 1920, the 19th Amendment was approved by US Secretary of State, Bainbridge Colby. On 2nd November, more than 8 million women across the United States voted in elections for the very first time. The last state to ratify the 19th Amendment was Mississippi, approving it on 22nd March 1984.

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Exploring Gender Identity: Insights from Maya Spirituality


The White Wizard Tribe, the Goddess Ixchel

I’ve worked with the Maya Oracle for thirty-four years. The Tiamat karma from Red Serpent~White Wizard Tribes tends to dominate the time movements. We had to come to Earth as refugees from that awful mistake. Red Serpent, also known as Reptilians, are widely known to have created our current patriarchy. Ixchel was the Mayan Jaguar goddess who provided analog support. She’s the only goddess I’ve seen in the tribes. The other 19 are gods, as far as I know.

This is a deeply ancient stuff and unconscious in most human minds. The automatic servile attitude and easy manipulation of many women toward lonely men comes from these ancient habits. Females are actually the dominant species on the planet, and it’s plain to see. Yet both men and women are complicit. They use the second-class citizen status against humanity as a collective. They bitterly complain about each other. Both suffer. All suffer when power is not shared with women as women and men as men. This happens instead of us wishing to biologically pretend to change our sex/gender.

All men and women are both male and female already in our genetics, minds, and in our souls. It’s not difficult to already look like the opposite sex because we are already both. So what! In most cultures, an individual reaches a shamanic state when they consciously acknowledge the female aspects within their body. They also recognize the male aspects. Are we really rejecting of shaman, healers, and lightworkers that we have to dismember their sex? Probably.

This is error-celebrating Earth, after all. People love to be wrong and feel they must convince others they are right… like a dictator. I’m just sharing my researched hypothesis and informed opinion. I don’t need anyone to agree with me.

What’s the real issue with the Red Serpent/Red Dragon abuse and the blood sacrifice of the Maya? We know that male dominance patriarchy was seeded on Tiamat because they filled themselves with nanites. Now it’s possibly ending the existence of those two kin. That is major for the Tzolkin lineup, but maybe it’s meant to be.

The transgender movement is phenomenally superficial to me when it comes to sex truth. Do they think that by cutting off an organ and pushing hormones, it will DELETE the opposite sex in them? The white coats are taking advantage of it. It’s an irrelevant issue whose superficial approach is wracking up money for sick care.

All of nature thrives on the fact that IT IS BINARY, + and – charge, female and male. Can life really become non-binary or non-dualistic? You can’t get rid of a positive or negative charge in atoms. You can’t get rid of them in people either because we are made of atoms. Nor can you get rid of time and the left and right sides of the body.

You have to incorporate, balance it, and expand it!! Women need to feel their male piece with their female piece and expand it. Males need to feel their female piece with their male piece and expand it. Why do you hate it? People need to examine that in light of their parents and trauma in childhood.

Dismembering the body is a regrettable mistake if you do it. It shows an unbalanced mind wishing to kill the male or the female. Or kill your father or kill your mother. Now, we are dealing with an Oedipus complex and Electra complex. Feel free to Google it. Books are written on the subject.

Trump is making grand, broad stroke statements about making it a law that only two sexes exist. That’s not necessary. Nature manifests mostly female and male evolution. But he can’t legislate gender expression without offending the First Amendment right to free speech. I do not support that.

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Women and Men both have minds and hearts.


Women have minds. Men have hearts. What’s the problem here? We are all human beings and are co-equal. The public objectification and restriction of expression for both sexes has to end.

I think this may be one function of the transgender movement; to just bust up the bullshit and start over without all of the lies. We’re human beings more than one sex in a 📦. Deep state patriarchy and religion have created severe unconscious repression for women and men. Time to get centered in the truth about yourself instead of projecting it outward into politics and others all the time.

The function of females is not to just look pretty and hot and make babies for men to claim as their own and do with whatever they want. Either men and women learn to love each other as minds and souls or…what’s the point?

The Meditations

Yellow 7 Resonant Sun is a point of enlightenment and ascension of the mind and heart. Our pain from our parents needs to be released. We aren’t them and are not meant to be. BE YOURSELF!

I channel in order to enlighten. Inspiring life, I seal THE MATRIX of universal fire with the resonant tone of attunement. I am guided by the power of FREEWILL. I am a GAP kin. Focus.-kin 20, Yellow 7 Sun

Timespace Sync

7 Pluto, Earth, Mercury, and Neptune are pulsing in time to affect 3D manifestation.

  • Pluto is mediating in time on a resonant 7 pulse. Pluto is the planet of transformation, regeneration, and power and spends anywhere from twelve to thirty-two years in each sign. With Pluto in Aquarius, there will be significant changes in humanity that begin with sudden endings. The level of progress that is possible now is extraordinary since the planet of power is combined in the sign of revolution. Social reform will have personal effects that are empowering.
  • Our Guide Power is mediated by 7 Earth as Yellow 7 Human in time. Good sync for this morning and afternoon. The Moon continues its transit of the inspirational and original leader Aries until it enters earthy Taurus at 1:23 PM EDT while time mediates White 7 Dog. Love and loyalty are in sync with the Moon in ♈️ Aries. Aries is the most loyal sign in the zodiac.
  • Tonight, the Last Quarter Moon occurs as the Sun in Leo forms a square with the Moon in Taurus. Leo is mediated by the Sun, our theme. At dusk, our Hidden Wisdom is Red 7 Dragon mediated by Neptune. Blood memory and the primordial mother issues come forward with the square to the Taurus Moon.
  • The issues with the primordial mother or mother spirit, the coequal feminine, come forward with the Last Quarter Moon phase pointing to a crisis of consciousness. We’re ready to sort out what works for us–and what doesn’t, especially in our relationships. Is it safe to be your authentic self or not?
  • It’s not an ideal time to start a major project, but it is an excellent time to tidy up details and tie up loose ends. We might consider recent revelations, what they mean to us, and what to do about them.
  • The Moon continues its void period today until the Moon enters Taurus at 1:23 PM EDT.

From cafeastrology.com, time Passages, and me.

The high Deep Earth Qfactor pulse syncs with our Earth alignments today and the blood memory from the Dragon tribe. We have got to deal with the objectification and restriction of female power on this planet and not admitting how emotional men are, more than women for sure..
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The Transgender Movement Ending Patriarchy?


Who came up with this? The 20-somethings. My son said this is what he and his friends are trying to do. The folly of youth. Good grief.

The GenX’ers have expressed that they are using the transgender movement to end patriarchy. Ok. 🤔That’s not gonna work. The way to end patriarchy is for biological women and men of all ages to treat each other as full human beings and love one another, not objectify and use each other for sex and money. Friendship must come first not hook ups.

It has been communicated to me via a follower on X.com that the idea is, if you eliminate biological women you eliminate patriarchy. Say what? No. Why do you think that will work? It’s misogynistic femicide. Of course we’re used to that on Earth. The end of women as a species would be the fulfillment of patriarchal fantasy and make it bigger until it blows itself up. Pun intended. All that will be left is men, who are the namesake of patriarchy. Maybe they would rather be matriarchy. The two are almost identical as the idea is to lord your power over another and be abusive. It’s the opposite of eliminating it.

It took mindsets and actions of both women and men to create the system of patriarchy. Fake gender surgery and wishing you were the opposite sex isn’t going to fix it. MINDSET and BEHAVIOR PIVOT is.

Men becoming women and ending the existence of naturally born biological women and men so they can replace us will end the human race, not patriarchy.

I think men just realize that women are the greatest species and are jealous of our beauty, power and ability to make a baby automatically. We sort of need your help to do all of that, so…if we love a man, we adore him as much as our children, if you’re kind and hot.

If you guys don’t get it, women probably need their own planet or you guys can all go with Elon to Mars, the women can keep earth, and it can be an all guy planet doing your fantasy AI thing with fake robot females. Don’t forget your stilettos, cross dressing tools, and exo-wombs. We can just ship our eggs to Mars and you can ship your semen to earth and we can be done with this.

I’m not in support of the prospect of no men on the planet but it would definitely be much quieter and safer. 🫤Dang Mars would be filthy.

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Time Innovation: A.I. Rich men (Elite) Suggest Synthetic Wombs Should Replace Women


This is 100% in Synchronicity with today’s theme; Red 11 Spectral Dragon; birth, being, and nurturing and is 100% evil or in error or shadow. The source of this idea is A.I. or the intrusion of the machine world in the Matrix onto our planet. Not gonna happen.

https://insiderpaper.com/response-to-elon-musks-tweet-suggests-synthetic-wombs-should-replace-women/

January 19, 2022, 12 mins ago Michelle Jones

synthetic wombs

Will synthetic wombs become a thing? A few ultra-wealthy men think it might be a good idea, but they didn’t appear to consult any women to find out what they think. It sounds like a horrible idea.

Response to Elon Musk’s tweet leads to synthetic womb suggestion

Perhaps the primary reason the conversation about synthetic wombs is attracting attention is because it was kicked off by a tweet from Tesla CEO and SpaceX CEO Elon Musk. He tweeted a concern that we should be worried about population collapse, sharing an article from the BBC about a “jaw-dropping” crash in the global fertility rate.

The BBC reported that plunging fertility rates mean almost every nation could see their populations start to shrink by the end of the century. It added that 23 countries are expected to see their populations cut in half by 2100.

In response, Sahil Lavingia, founder of digital product trading platform Gumroad, suggested that we should invest in technology that “makes having kids much faster/ easier/ cheaper/ more accessible,” such as “synthetic wombs, etc.” Ethereum co-founder Vitalik Buterin added that women would be able to keep working if synthetic wombs relieved the “high burden of pregnancy.”

Why it’s a horrid idea

His argument was that women’s earnings drop significantly after they have a child, but men’s don’t. However, that statistic doesn’t show why women’s earnings drop so much after they have a child. One of the parents would have to take on the primary role in caring for a child, and if it’s the mother, the same problem could occur even for those who used synthetic wombs.

Men who are reading this probably don’t want to think about it, but there’s also the issue of breastfeeding. Women who don’t get pregnant won’t be able to breastfeed, and studies have shown that it’s beneficial for babies to be able to do so.

And the reasons go on and on.

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Intimacy; dogs or gods?


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Who could resist that adorable puppy coming running toward them for attention? There ya have it. That’s the curse women are under with cute men. I’ve interviewed women and they agree. When a man is really cute he’s very hard to resist!  It’s terrible. We just want to love em’ up and feed them, make up a dog house, let them stay over, oh geez, on and on and it does us in. There goes the peace we need as females and space to take care of ourselves and get our work done. We really need to learn to resist this instinct!

True to form, I learn something every day about women and men, our basic natures, and realize there were many things I was not taught growing up. Can you relate to that moment someone close to you said something off the cuff and it stuck in your head? That was the case for me with my second husband Dave (my son’s father). He was walking up the stairs one day after a normal conversation and he looked at me and said “We’re like dogs. Men are like dogs” Some men are fancy dogs, or rich dogs, or bad dogs, or good dogs, or work dogs. Some are both! Some are crazy dogs or funny dogs, sexy dogs or sweet dogs. You get the idea.

If you read my blog regularly you can guess I looked at him with disbelief and derision. In no way was I going to accept that as an excuse for his behavior. Nor had I ever entertained a career in dog training or dog breeding by letting a man live with me. I’ve never even owned a dog and don’t want to because I’m consistently told that they are like having another child! Children need to be patted on the head and encouraged, praised with kind words, fed, loved, and kept warm and more. I already did that with my son. I don’t need to do that with a man or a dog. It’s a turn off to me to think about treating a man like a dog. But now I’ve been mulling it over.

I can say with assurance that I have always worked toward and considered myself a goddess as opposed to dog food. In no way have I ever fed my body to a lusty man to be consumed because he’s hungry. I think most women do though! They accept it! It does feel good and women most definitely have the instinct to feed men but it will kill your self-esteem and is not emotionally good for women.

On the other hand, men love those superheroes and I know for a fact they have a rich fantasy life about what great warrior heroes and magical powers they might possess. There’s nothing a man loves more than seeing a woman look at him sincerely as her hero. It’s not that a woman wants or needs to be rescued. We really don’t. But sometimes we definitely do need protection in a very rough world. Sure,  IronMan to the scene! I’m good with that and Robert Downey Jr. is a major hottie. A man who is a god can be recognized as truly wanting and respecting an intelligent woman who takes care of her own business. He takes care of his own business so he isn’t bothering her like a little kid and her in the role of his mother. No thanks. He also takes care of his health and teeth so he pleases her physically and of course, she does the same. Most of all, he likes himself and has matured to the point of being able to listen and care about how a woman feels.

So I can honestly say I’ve decided I am looking for a man who knows he really IS a god just as I know I am a goddess. It’s an awareness of the divinity within us; one with us and is the goal of the Spiritual movement. You won’t find it in religion and I’m guessing they find it heretical. Spiritual people are not saying we are God. We’re saying that our identity is an ascending child of God which is a god or goddess. We’re working on ourselves to get better every day. Every single human being has this in them; in our blood which is our QI, or consciousness. I’m not the goddess I want to be or know I can be yet but I’m almost there and it has nothing to do with age. That will be the subject of another blog.

 

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Intimacy; Men are Dramatic in Action and Women are Dramatic in their Speech


you've got to be kidding me

How many bazillion times have you heard a guy say “No drama!”? They act like they give women no drama. Men are over the top!!! Men get emotional physically and sometimes verbally. Their actions are too dramatic. That’s the testosterone and they put WOMEN through the wringer not being able to calm down their testosterone or my favorite, being so confused about how to relate what they want to us that they send dual-minded, conflicting signals. A lot of women think they’re lying but half of the time I think they just don’t know what to say…literally.

Women are more dramatic in expressing themselves verbally. Women are actually brilliant at expressing themselves verbally and men are FOREVER telling us to be quiet and stop being so dramatic. I fucking hate it nor will I obey. I find men and women to be equally expressive emotionally but in these two different modes.

Next time a man says to you, “Cut the drama” when you’re speaking and expressing your feelings, bring down the curtain on his ass regarding how his actions are overdramatic expressing HIS feelings. He can “cut the drama” too. Sheesh!

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Men are Dramatic in Action and Women are Dramatic in their Speech


you've got to be kidding me

How many bazillion times have you heard a guy say “No drama!”? They act like they give women no drama. Men are over the top!!! Men get emotional physically and sometimes verbally. Their actions are too dramatic. That’s the testosterone and they put WOMEN through the wringer not being able to calm down their testosterone or my favorite, being so confused about how to relate what they want to us that they send dual-minded, conflicting signals. A lot of women think they’re lying but half of the time I think they just don’t know what to say…literally.

Women are more dramatic in expressing themselves verbally. Women are actually brilliant at expressing themselves verbally and men are FOREVER telling us to be quiet and stop being so dramatic. I fucking hate it nor will I obey. I find men and women to be equally expressive emotionally but in these two different modes.

Next time a man says to you, “Cut the drama” when you’re speaking and expressing your feelings, bring down the curtain on his ass regarding how his actions are overdramatic expressing HIS feelings. He can “cut the drama” too. Sheesh!

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Body; size bias has changed so much in six years


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“Fat’ is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her. I mean, is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me; but then, you might retort, what do I know about the pressure to be skinny? I’m not in the business of being judged on my looks, what with being a writer and earning my living by using my brain…”-J.K. Rowling

Thin privilege means you’ve proven that you have control over your appetites and just live a healthy good life.  If you force yourself, in any manner possible, to be thin, you have the privilege of hovering over others who are not thin and believing you’re better than them because you control your life, your mind, and your body size at all costs to gain an advantage in every way.  What society and media have done is cover over their addiction to money, sex, fancy houses, food, drugs, etc., because they have no connection to Source/spirituality.  They are using having a thin body as the token for being “in control” of themselves.

However, if you dig a little deeper in thin, rich people’s lives, you’ll see all kinds of things out of control that they are hiding.  They’re playing the materialist game and it will at some point, come tumbling down.  No one on this planet is immune to control issues.  And no one has the right to assert that they are better or of more value on the planet because they can appear to be.  All the world’s a stage and they are certainly the players.  So what they assert is that anyone who is thick and fluffy, for whatever reason, doesn’t matter as much, is not “in control” of themselves, should not make as much money, and are below the thin people in every way.  I don’t think so. Attitudes are changing now.

I’ve already achieved two of my dreams; having a child, and having my own healing practice. I’m convinced, and I’ve heard firsthand accounts from those who have been heavy and are now thin, that when a woman loses weight, her value and amount of “attention and affirmation” go up astronomically from others.  Thin privilege is real.  Some guys say it doesn’t matter when they’re feeling all warm in their heart.  But that’s only one-eighth of the time that they’re feeling warm in their heart.  The rest of the time they’re a stray dog looking for a b….. to hump.  Then it matters! Size usually doesn’t matter to cat-type men, only to the dogs.

Thin, toned women function to easily fulfill the sexual appetite of men or women mostly, in my opinion. Let’s face it. Sex can go quicker, is more intense, you can move better and it’s all pretty animalistic when you’re small.  Thick people have great sex too. I’m not asserting we don’t, but it takes longer. The men get their grounding through the woman, use her, and throw her-sort of like a dementor in Harry Potter when they can get it quickly.  Fat women are self-contained and ground themselves with love through their thickness. The weight pulls on gravity which helps us center our energy like a magnet.  It’s just a theory.  My son said to me, “It seems like fat people are happier Mom”.  Lol. Maybe we’re calmer, less stressed out because we aren’t competing so much or we’re just less materialistic and superficial.  I don’t know.

It’s a diabolical fact in our society that fat people are treated like lepers. It’s because of patriarchy and capitalism. Fat people are offensive to patriarchal men and women.  We’re paid less, viewed as lazy or stupid, unhealthy, an insurance risk, and not touched as much. My ex-husband asked me to lose weight “for him”. That means he was a dog-type man looking for a bitch, which I was not. The whole notion is so incredibly nauseating at how superficial and conditional people are in their acceptance of others. One of my old friends lost a TON of weight (she was bigger than me), and she seems most unhappy now that she’s thin. Sure, physically it’s easier to move, but now she’s realizing what she was hiding from when she was overweight and I think it’s getting to her. She was hiding from superficial bullshit and predatory males!  The same thing happened to my older sister. It’s obvious to me that it’s too easy for women to lose themselves in relationships, others, their kids, their community and ignore their body and their emotional and spiritual needs.

It’s too easy for men to lose themselves in sex, toys, money, and immediate gratification. It turns some men on when a woman loves herself, knows her own mind and needs and loves her body no matter what size it is. I’ve been all sizes in my life. While I’ve been a Mom, I’ve felt very comfy in a thicker body. But now that my son is grown and I want to zip around from 56-104 years old, I think my bones will hold up better if I lighten the load. That said, I’m not going to parade around a different size body like it’s a trophy which degrades those that choose to stay in a thicker body!  To each his own.

For me, I respect a man so much if he can control any of his appetites and learn to spend time with a woman and love a woman in a relationship as a friend. If he can’t, I don’t respect him, no matter how good looking he is, how many degrees he has, money and accolades to boot. Men are going to have to face the fact that unless they can bond monogamously with the woman that really loves and digs him, he’s a failure in societies eyes.