Essay: Transactional vs. Personal in relationships

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The “Time is Money” materialist value system thinking has taken over American relationships of every kind. Relationships that should be personal become useage transactional and relationships that should be business transactional become usage personal to scam money or babies. Criminals layer the two. The root is a dysfunctional past with parents that you haven’t processed.

How we use money is at issue here. How do you personally use money? I use it to live, to pay bills, and to have enough healthy food to eat. I have no extra and would only need a bit more for a nest egg. I don’t want a pile of money because the government takes too much and throws it down an illegal rat hole. I’m not doing it. I work hard and really well for the little I have.

I never use money over others as personal power in an intimate, friendship, or family relationship. I think it’s wrong and I don’t do things that I know are wrong unlike banks, and rich people who love money as power. Not all rich people do though. Same with lawsuits. You should resolve differences in personal relationships out of court where there is no money. Those types of relationships should never be turned into JUST A TRANSACTION.

My small business is transactional. Professional services should always be just impersonal transactions. Yet in America, business people fake care about you or talk to you like you are family. They get personal. I hate that crap. You don’t know me and I don’t know you. Don’t pretend like you do.

The confusion in healthcare, and not just for me, is we are caring about our patients. All of us. White coat and holistic. But we are PAID to care. It is our job. It is possible to make caring a transactional job when it comes easily to a person to give as a service. The client or patient who misunderstands that are takers who don’t take care of themselves. I’m sorry, but my care for a patient is never a date or personal. Nor do I ever give that vibe on my deeptissuetherapygr.com site or otherwise. I think it’s confusing for people who have never had anyone love them. That is rampant in our society and tragic.

I think bartenders get the therapist carer thing too but they are just transactional also. Humans lack boundaries in our country.

Whenever there is money involved between two people, be clear on whether it’s personal or transactional and don’t use it as though Time is money. It absolutely IS NOT money, nor is time a currency. TIME IS LIFE, EVOLUTION AND DNA and that is very…personal.

The Tao says, “Know the personal but keep to the impersonal”. I wonder why?

Essay: Men’s babies are their machines. Women’s babies are…human babies, and therein lies the rub


The father loses the focus and attention of the mother after she has a baby. We love no one more than our babies, and that is forever the case. The men resent it, I think. I can’t blame them. Mother love has kind of done women in on earth too so it’s not as though we don’t question our choice to have children. We could use our creative power to lead and achieve and help the planet. People call that feminism. I call it humanism. We keep birthing our babies onto a slave, patriarch planet where women and children are fodder and sex trafficked. Maybe we need to stop.

It’s true that I will never love a mate as much as my son. Motherly love that is. But at least it’s real love and not based in sex or money which is superficial.

OMG… I’m sorry, this is messed up. They can’t make a baby so they make machines. And here we are.

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