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Essay: Transactional vs. Personal in relationships


6/25/26

I just thought of a new one. Fake personal that is really transactional. People who know they need to be more personal and authentic but have no skill in it bc their whole lives have been transactional.

The “Time is Money” materialist value system thinking has taken over American relationships of every kind. Relationships that should be personal become useage transactional and relationships that should be business transactional become usage personal to scam sex, money, or babies. Criminals layer the two. The root cause is a dysfunctional past with parents that you haven’t processed.

How we use money is at issue here. How do you personally use money? I use it to live, to pay bills, and to have enough healthy food to eat. I have no extra and would only need a bit more for a nest egg. I don’t want a pile of money because the government takes too much and throws it down an illegal rat hole. I’m not doing it. I work hard and really well for the little I have.

I never use money over others as personal power in an intimate, friendship, or family relationship. The love of money is the root of all evil, but not money itself which webhave to have to live. Just don’t LOVE it.

I think it’s wrong and I don’t do things that I know are wrong unlike banks, and rich people who love money as power. Not all rich people do though. Same with lawsuits. You should resolve differences in personal relationships out of court where there is no money. Those types of relationships should never be turned into JUST A TRANSACTION.

My small business is transactional. Professional services should always be just impersonal transactions. Yet in America, business people fake care about you or talk to you like you are family. They get personal but it’s superficial. You don’t know me and I don’t know you. Don’t pretend like you do.

The confusion in healthcare, and not just for me, is we care about our patients. All of us. White coat and holistic. But we are PAID to care. It is our job. It is possible to make caring a transactional job when it comes easily to a person to give as a service. The client or patient who misunderstands that are takers who don’t take care of themselves. I’m sorry, but my care for a patient is never a date or personal. Nor do I ever give that vibe on my deeptissuetherapygr.com site or otherwise. I think it’s confusing for people who have never had anyone love them. That is rampant in our society and tragic.

I think bartenders get the therapist carer thing too but they are just transactional also. Humans lack boundaries in our country.

Whenever there is money involved between two people, be clear on whether it’s personal or transactional and don’t use it as though time is money. It absolutely IS NOT money, nor is time a currency. TIME IS LIFE, EVOLUTION AND DNA and that is very…personal.

The Tao says, “Know the personal but keep to the impersonal”. Boundaries and privacy are important.

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Essay: It’s possible to hide behind extroversion


You can build a castle around you whether you’re extrovert or introvert.

I’m an introvert and I love it. It’s a rich life. I just had a patient who needed me for 2 hours and I led with my inuition the whole time and totally helped her. I was analyzing but with my higher self, not my calculating slow brain.

Everybody knows we live in an extremely repressed, fake, Hollywood, look at me ego world where nobody tells the truth about how they really feel. Except lightworkers, artists, psychics, and healers. I was raised in that kind of family. We lead with nature and faith, into my extended family and I’m grateful.

Some people had superficial, abusive, social climbing, or greedy parents. That’s fine. There are lessons there too as in how NOT to be like them if you want an authentic, healthy life. I always had the space to be authentic in my family so I’ve always been authentic with my patients. My office is a sanctuary unless being real scares you. I can actually work with that too a little at a time.

Try being alone more. Ignore what people say and be sure you feel your insides and have some fun.

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Essay: You draw TO YOU what you are

Blue and orange glowing energy strands twisting through a starry galaxy

It’s never about what one person needs but whether both of you can benefit from each  other without feeling restricted. I’ve always felt restricted by a man. They are very territorial and emotionally needy, alpha or beta.

This is especially true for personal relationships. It has been true for me and now I’m regrouping. This also applies to your Harmonic tone and tribe as well as the tribes around you.

If you are a tone 3 and date a tone 3, that person is either karma or dharma depending on the level of negative and positive transaction. That is the case with all of the tones.

The Tiamat karmic tribes, gender inequity issue, are Red Serpent, White Wizard, White Worldbridger, and Red Skywalker. It swirls a little epic around us. Wears me out. Any males from those tribes are going to encounter negative karma with White Wizard Ixchel women. They have a huge chip on their shoulder toward the men.

There is also doubling up with a person who is the same color of tribe. Red are initiators/leaders, White are refiners, Yellow are ripeners/teachers, and blue are transformers.

Be sure and put your attraction through a filter and don’t just base it on lust. That’s never going to work. It’s like diet or food choices. Just because you’re hungry don’t eat an entire bag of cookies for lunch. Eat a balanced meal or pay a big price later. Sugar is just bad except in very small doses. Lust is like that.

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Essay: Transactional vs. Personal in relationships

Pathway with zodiac symbols leading to glowing portal under planets and stars

6/25/26

I just thought of a new one. Fake personal that is really transactional. People who know they need to be more personal and authentic but have no skill in it bc their whole lives have been transactional.

The “Time is Money” materialist value system thinking has taken over American relationships of every kind. Relationships that should be personal become useage transactional and relationships that should be business transactional become usage personal to scam sex, money, or babies. Criminals layer the two. The root cause is a dysfunctional past with parents that you haven’t processed.

How we use money is at issue here. How do you personally use money? I use it to live, to pay bills, and to have enough healthy food to eat. I have no extra and would only need a bit more for a nest egg. I don’t want a pile of money because the government takes too much and throws it down an illegal rat hole. I’m not doing it. I work hard and really well for the little I have.

I never use money over others as personal power in an intimate, friendship, or family relationship. The love of money is the root of all evil, but not money itself which webhave to have to live. Just don’t LOVE it.

I think it’s wrong and I don’t do things that I know are wrong unlike banks, and rich people who love money as power. Not all rich people do though. Same with lawsuits. You should resolve differences in personal relationships out of court where there is no money. Those types of relationships should never be turned into JUST A TRANSACTION.

My small business is transactional. Professional services should always be just impersonal transactions. Yet in America, business people fake care about you or talk to you like you are family. They get personal but it’s superficial. You don’t know me and I don’t know you. Don’t pretend like you do.

The confusion in healthcare, and not just for me, is we care about our patients. All of us. White coat and holistic. But we are PAID to care. It is our job. It is possible to make caring a transactional job when it comes easily to a person to give as a service. The client or patient who misunderstands that are takers who don’t take care of themselves. I’m sorry, but my care for a patient is never a date or personal. Nor do I ever give that vibe on my deeptissuetherapygr.com site or otherwise. I think it’s confusing for people who have never had anyone love them. That is rampant in our society and tragic.

I think bartenders get the therapist carer thing too but they are just transactional also. Humans lack boundaries in our country.

Whenever there is money involved between two people, be clear on whether it’s personal or transactional and don’t use it as though time is money. It absolutely IS NOT money, nor is time a currency. TIME IS LIFE, EVOLUTION AND DNA and that is very…personal.

The Tao says, “Know the personal but keep to the impersonal”. Boundaries and privacy are important.

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Essay: Men’s babies are their machines. Women’s babies are…human babies, and therein lies the rub


The father loses the focus and attention of the mother after she has a baby. We love no one more than our babies, and that is forever the case. The men resent it, I think. I can’t blame them. Mother love has kind of done women in on earth too so it’s not as though we don’t question our choice to have children. We could use our creative power to lead and achieve and help the planet. People call that feminism. I call it humanism. We keep birthing our babies onto a slave, patriarch planet where women and children are fodder and sex trafficked. Maybe we need to stop.

It’s true that I will never love a mate as much as my son. Motherly love that is. But at least it’s real love and not based in sex or money which is superficial.

OMG… I’m sorry, this is messed up. They can’t make a baby so they make machines. And here we are.

Happy young man hugging his new car in showroom. Satisfied guy with closed eyes embracing the hood of the automobile. Dreaming man lying on car bonnet hugging it.
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