Body; Do Men Do the Picking or Do Women?
Women do. First, she flirts with the man she wants and lets him unconsciously know she likes him, then he responds assuming he’s initiating the whole thing. He’s not. She did, but he’s not sure she did so he intends to find out. Don’t wait too long or she might change her mind. That happens too. I don’t like a guy who’s slow on the draw. I want to know you pick up cues quickly and want to make me happy. So many guys don’t anymore.
I post a lot on FB threads that comment about relationships and the nature of men and women. “Steve Harvey TV” posted, “Never let a man tell you twice that he doesn’t want you.” The gist of what I responded with was, “It doesn’t really matter what men want. Men don’t really know what they want in relationships or even for dinner. Women are better at that. Women tend to be the ones that pick because she’s the one that bears the weight of reproduction and communication. She knows what her body needs in the event that she does get pregnant. It’s nature. Men are very good at other things but not at picking a woman.” Men are free to want what they want but it isn’t going to change much.
I’m not about insulting men. My goal is to help bring some balance between the genders and especially female empowerment. For the record, I know there are some very daft women out there who misuse their personal power, are tetched or abusive, or just have a mountain of work to do on themselves before they could ever pick the right man. As nature goes, women are the leaders though. Women are the “pickers” in relationships. Women need to steer how the relationship is going to go. Women have evolved these social skills and we need to get better at asserting ourselves and getting better organized when it comes to picking a man. I was not very organized myself about picking a man in my youth because I wasn’t the least bit interested in marriage. I paid a price for that.
Know yourself. Know your body. Take care of yourself. Feel your sexual nature and enjoy it. Then make a list. Make a bulleted list of what your instincts and senses tell you to need in a mate…if you’re straight that is. Women that wait for a man to “want them” are left in the dust over and over because they aren’t taking charge. They start to blame men for being dogs when….yeah…straight men kind of are because for most men, that’s the level they’ve evolved to. Again, not all, but most. Do you want them to be gay? They are great communicators, love to talk and decorate, but no sex? I guess I’m assuming bonding, but these days, a lot of people don’t even want that. It’s bad for your health over time not to bond.
Straight men have other great qualities and I suggest straight women start to observe and notice them. For the record, I am absolutely cool with LGBTQ. But there are a lot of straight men and women out there struggling too.
Strong men are looking for strong women. Shallow men are looking for shallow women. Dog type men are looking for bitches to train them. Cat type men are looking for a cat-type woman. Like attracts like. So work on yourself and be clear about what you want. You embody Love and nothing is more attractive to a man than a woman whose heart really adores and loves him. And in return, if he even halfway likes who he is, he will adore you in return.
Body; What You Get Is What You See
This a great tune about the vanity of going after a pretty face. Women and men who flaunt themselves mainly on their looks don’t have much to offer in a relationship because they don’t work on the inside.
I Love Tina Turner! She’s my kind of gal; a wildcat. She’s not into pretty boys. Just because they look good doesn’t mean they’re going to know their way around YOUR VIBE!
It is hard to find a real man…on the inside.
What You Get Is What You See
Some boys got the look of a Greek Adonis
Some boys try to talk you off your feet
Some boys they’re gods gift to a woman
Some boys think they’re sweet enough to eat
Try to change the habit of a lifetime
Don’t even try
Cause when you cut down deeper than the icing
You realize
Some boys try to talk you off your feet
Some boys they’re gods gift to a woman
Some boys think they’re sweet enough to eat
Try to change the habit of a lifetime
Don’t even try
Cause when you cut down deeper than the icing
You realize
What you get is what you see
Ain’t nothing more to it
And if you want to love a woman like me
It takes a man to do it
If what you get is what you see
Then I don’t want your kind of love
Ain’t nothing more to it
And if you want to love a woman like me
It takes a man to do it
If what you get is what you see
Then I don’t want your kind of love
Some guys got lips that you can’t help kissing
And some guys got a smile you can’t resist
Some guys gotta build a reputation
They just want to add you to the list
You got a lot of physical attraction
I can’t deny
But can you guarantee me satisfaction
While I’m still waiting, waiting, waiting
And some guys got a smile you can’t resist
Some guys gotta build a reputation
They just want to add you to the list
You got a lot of physical attraction
I can’t deny
But can you guarantee me satisfaction
While I’m still waiting, waiting, waiting
What you get is what you see
Ain’t nothing more to it
And if you want to love a woman like me
It takes a man to do it
If what you get is what you see
Then I don’t want your kind of love
Ain’t nothing more to it
And if you want to love a woman like me
It takes a man to do it
If what you get is what you see
Then I don’t want your kind of love
So let me see your cards on the table
Before I buy
I always read the writing on the label
So give me a reason to believe there’s more to you than meets the eye
Before I buy
I always read the writing on the label
So give me a reason to believe there’s more to you than meets the eye
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Songwriters: Graham Hamilton Lyle / Terry Britten
What You Get Is What You See lyrics © Warner Chappell Music, Inc, Kobalt Music Publishing Ltd., BMG Rights Management
Prose; Sex as Source Energy
Authority, document, Testament, creed
Usurps my Love and all Earth deeds
Nurture, Earth, yearning passion, lust
absent fondness, potent throbs concuss.
Strength, virility, manly vigor, force,
potent beat, vacant blow, profuse throbbing course
Pound THE BOOK? It’s the loudest?
Leave my heart on the floor.
You are absent, your soul knows no swell or full core of
my love or your love, the book just ignores.
Woman’s body is feared, she makes life on her own
once man’s seed is deeply sown.
Yet her body creates the greatest of gifts,
a child, not great thoughts that cause a great rift.
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Prose; Adoration Be Damned
I’m stalking a case for spring in the autumn of my middle age.
My assembled energy is diametrically opposite that of needing the validation of an amassed group of imposters pretending to agree so they can drink together later.
It’s not that I don’t like the group, or that I don’t occasionally have a very dry martini, I just don’t viscerally need the group. They get exhumed energy from each other; even demand it threatening social castigation, as though there would be any real loss there.
I haven’t figured out how to affix myself to a rumbling male in my present condition.
In addition, my mephitic eighteen-year-old son will be moving out of the house soon to go on his way to sow his oats and beans. My peaceful environment is proliferating.
As I think back on the men/mates I’ve adored and who have adored me, as vain as that sounds, it was called love at the time and then it turned into territorial civil war and possessive jealousy.
I’m pretty sure that uncorked behavior is common and some couples like it that way but some don’t. I don’t.
It’s just that, in this new paradigm of sitting in my body and owning myself, that adoration doesn’t feel like it’s all it’s cracked up to be.
A man feels as though I’ve forged an alliance with a fawning cat whose nursing by pushing its paws into my chest.
Maybe it’s just the mood I’m in.
When a man starts to adore me he wants to own me, my time, and my body, like a puppy!
That’s been my experience with every man I’ve been with except this last guy I dated. At least he didn’t bug me. I know there are all the ideas about giving your mate the space they need, but then the real emotions of amorous desire creep in.
“I want you”, “I adore you”, “I need you”, “I love you”, “I miss you” becomes a medieval prison!
I used to think I wanted to be adored by a man with high self-esteem and all the pheromones I need to be turned on, but now I’m not so sure.
I love my life, my work, my friends, and my home. Maybe all of that adoration would be oppressive! I’d have to respond after all or that would be rude.
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Essay; There is Something Emotionally “Off” with Guys
(I wrote this 7 years ago. Women in 2026 are just now seeing it.)
There are too many on the roster for me to ignore this. I read a lot too, so it’s not as though I’m ignorant. Well, seriously…I know men have feelings. That’s very obvious and I’m good with that, unlike many women. It’s just as obvious as the fact that women have feelings. And I am sensitive to men’s feelings, as different than women’s and have a ton of experience with men expressing their feelings with me. I’m safe to do that with. That’s sort of the problem…maybe.
The Jekyll and Hyde thing, the fear of getting too close, or relying on a woman as your friend, or letting her help you with something she is strong in and you have no idea about; she does the same with you. It’s relational, not teansactional.
Why can’t men rely on women the same way? Why is that so emotionally vulnerable for you but it’s not for us? Maybe you didn’t have a good sister? That’s how you pattern it in your brain?
As a woman, who has talked to a lot of women, if we get a red flag about a dude, we break it off, let it go, and have a fairly practical attitude about the lack of emotional affinity so we don’t usually cling, push away, cling, push away, kick and punch. That induces no sense of emotional security in a woman at all.
And I’ve seen it way too much with men. I don’t see this behavior in women maybe because there’s no way a guy would tolerate that from a woman. I see and hear her making her mind up.
She has a subjective sense of “the feel” of the guy and their emotions and the sexual affinity so her radar is on baby! If all that isn’t flowing, we’re not interested and don’t need to analyze it. Our body told us and that counts the most.
Now the objective part. Males tend to value or be, more objective to their everlasting detriment. You’re missing half of the picture. You thought you drank the whole glass, the other half is in there.
You thought you took a full breath, you didn’t exhale. I’ll stop. The objective picture, which women can fully, competently, always, always, see, is just dumb to us. It’s never just that way.
CYou can’t gain any accurate information in life or in relationships by only being objective any more than you can know what sex feels like by just standing outside of it and watching it.
Subjective means you are the subject, you’re in it, you’re living it, your senses, feelers, intuition, BODY (such a big truth for women) are in the situation and we’re talking UPLOAD of information into the computer.
It computes, along with the easy, objective stuff. We know what’s going on when we’re next to our man but we will never, ever, understand why guys are so irrational and comatose when they’renext to a woman, or her breasts, that you love or care for. Just why? Probablu because he’s not that into you.
The rational way to analyze and proceed in a relationship is to dip your toe in the water, smell each other, listen to each other’s voices, socialize, get your instincts going, eat together…and this only takes maybe a couple weeks or the total of five dates to have enough data to make the decision.
Do I want to have sex with this guy and allow some emotional bonding or not? Whether women admit it or not, our brains are programmed to emotionally bond. It’s kind of obvious.
It is forever lost on me why men can’t be more rational about their feelings. Women have evolved to be objective and subjective. We tend to be balanced for the sake of our children.
There are plenty of brilliant women that can do the math, science, tech, blah, blah, blah, blah, like it’s such a big deal. No…it’s not. It’s pretty easy for us. Dealing with you guys and not having to have our defenses up when you freak out over how you feel is what is not easy for us. Living with you is not easy for us. I don’t think I can do it anymore.
Please try to be more subjective, more empathic, more understanding of other people and women who are different than you. We are not men nor do we want to be nor do we need to follow you around doing guy stuff. We can balance being objective with being subjective and we ask the same of you.
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